so i went on the american apparel site today
looking at the socks
here’s one of the pictures for men’s socks
seriously i’m not one to complain about sexism much but i just looked on this site and??
THE FUCK IS THIS???
also BAGS AND WALLEtS???
????????????????????? I DON’T FUCKING GET IT????
"gendered marketing doesn’t exist!! shut up femenazi"
I just had the experience of buying a tailored suit for the first time. After viewing this, it strikes me how much men’s clothing is all about empowering us; I had an all around great time and felt like I could take on anything by by the sheer dazzling shine of my well fitting shirt. I felt like an agent. It seems that marketing to women is much more about vulnerability. The woman’s agency in these images is only in her appeal to the gaze of the real wielder of power: the man.
spacegrizzly asked: Hiya hello, Really diggin your blog and how informative it is. Anyway, as a guy, just curious as to why I should call myself a feminist ally and not a feminist. Or if you could just give me a concrete definition of the word "feminist" that'd be super helpful, thankyou thankyou
Feminism as a movement is not about prioritizing the feelings of cis men as above or equal to our own. You are welcome to be an ally for us. But calling yourself feminist is invading a movement that was not made for you and in which your voice is not necessary and often not wanted. It is male privilege to think you are entitled to join and gain a title in any club, group or movement you want. I’ve noticed that cis men who insist on being called “feminists” rather than “feminist allies” put their own feelings and need for legitimacy/validation above the actual goals and priorities of feminism. Feminist can be used as an adjective/descriptive term for men, like “I met a guy who seemed very feminist.” Or “He has some strong feminist beliefs”. A man could say “I believe in feminism”. But to adopt the title of feminist is appropriation of a movement that has been built on and by the suffering of women and other people who experience gender-based oppression. Basically, if a man says he’s a feminist and, when asked by us to call himself a “feminist ally” instead, he refuses, he proves that he doesn’t actually care about women or our needs and feelings, and he has no right to be involved in feminism in any way.
It is with a full sense of irony that I say I (cisgendered hetero male) don’t think I can agree 100% with this post. Doesn’t language belong to all of us? Misandry Mermaid has said previously that “Men have a lot of privileges that NO ONE should have, not even oppressed groups.” I think a monopoly on language use — including the policing of who gets to be a feminist — is one of these privileges. Another sticky wicket is that by limiting the term to women you have to decide who gets to be a woman for the purposes of feminist self-identification. What about transmen? All that said, I fully acknowledge that it costs me nothing (besides two more syllables) to use the term “feminist ally” instead, so I can see how it would be, ahem, “dickish” to insist on “feminist” as an appellation in the face of requests to desist. This dialectic is all part of the social exchange that is language. Perhaps it is best to acknowledge that the identity of a feminist is an open question.
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